What is IFS and how does it work?

Internal Family Systems, or IFS, is an evidence-based approach that understands the mind as made up of different 'parts.' In our sessions, we'll get curious about these parts rather than fighting them. The goal isn't to get rid of any part of you — it's to build enough internal trust that they don't have to run the show anymore. Most clients find it clarifying and, often, a significant relief.

Are you going to tell me what to do?

I'm a directive therapist, which means I won't just sit quietly and nod. I'll ask pointed questions, offer honest observations, and sometimes say 'look over here' when I think something is worth examining. But I'm not here to tell you who to date, whether to stay in a relationship, or what your life should look like. What I will do is help you figure out what you actually want, and get out of your own way enough to go after it.

How long will therapy take?

That depends on what you're bringing and what you want to work on. Some clients come in with a specific issue and feel ready to move on after several months. Others are working on longer-standing patterns and find that a year or more gives them the depth they're looking for. We'll make decisions about pacing collaboratively.

How do we get started?

Reach out to schedule a free consultation. We'll spend about 20 minutes getting to know each other. You can ask me anything, and I'll ask you some questions to understand what's bringing you in and what you're hoping for. If we both feel like it's a good fit, we'll schedule our first session from there.

A SHAME-FREE PLACE TO EXPLORE WHO YOU ARE AND HOW YOU LOVE.

THERAPY FOR SEX & SEXUALITY IN CALIFORNIA.

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THERE ARE THINGS YOU’VE NEVER SAID OUT LOUD. THIS IS A PLACE YOU CAN BRING ALL OF THEM.

Maybe it’s a desire you’ve never shared with anyone because you’re not sure how it would land. Maybe the gap between what you want and what you’re actually experiencing has become something you’ve stopped trying to bridge. Maybe your relationship to your own body feels complicated in ways you haven’t been able to name, let alone talk about.

Or maybe you just know that something isn’t working. Sex feels like an obligation, or it has disappeared entirely. Desire feels absent, or unfocused, or pointed in a direction you don’t know what to do with. You want intimacy, but something in you goes quiet every time it gets close.

This is hard to talk about. It’s even harder to talk about with someone you’re not sure will get it.

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Shame or confusion about your desires, your body, or what turns you on.

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Disconnected from your sexuality or from a partner you genuinely care about.

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There are things you want or need that you don’t know how to ask for.

There is a version of yourself you don’t fully recognize in intimate situations.

Here’s what we’ll do together

THERAPY for SEX & SEXUALITY CAN HELP.

You can understand your desires without shame. You can reconnect with your body and with what you actually want. You can build intimacy that reflects who you are, not who you think you’re supposed to be.

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I bring significant clinical experience to this work. My approach is affirming, non-judgmental, and specific to you. Whatever you’re navigating, including desire discrepancy, intimacy challenges, questions about identity, kink or non-normative sexuality, or simply a sex life that has stopped feeling like your own, I’m not here to normalize it away or pathologize it. I’m here to help you understand it.

My approach comes from a place of curiosity: believing that your sexuality is not a problem to be managed, but a part of yourself worth knowing.

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SHAME AND SILENCE DON’T HAVE TO BE YOUR STORY. YOU DESERVE A VIBRANT AND FULFILLING SEX LIFE.

From silence to finally being able to ask for what you want and need.

THERAPY FOR SEX & SEXUALITY CAN HELP YOU:

Discover your sexual self.

Together, we will create a space where nothing is off the table: desire, identity, kink, questions about your body, things you’ve never said to another person

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Understand patterns in your sexual behavior.

Explore where your patterns around sex and intimacy come from and what they’ve been protecting

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Develop confidence and language to stake our your needs.

Build the language and the internal permission to ask for what you actually want, and to hear what your partner needs

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Address physical and emotional disconnection.

Address physical and emotional disconnection with tools grounded in somatic awareness and attachment, because the body keeps score even when the mind tries to move on

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Change is possible.

I’LL HELP YOU GET THERE.

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FAQs

COMMON QUESTIONS

Sessions are conversational. There is no physical contact or demonstration of any kind. What makes this work different from general therapy is that we go directly into conversations about sex, desire, intimacy, and your body without dancing around it. We’ll look at your history, your patterns, your relationship to your own sexuality, and what you’re hoping to change. Some clients find it useful to have structured reflection between sessions. We’ll figure out together what works best for you.
I’m a directive therapist, which means I won’t just sit quietly and nod. I’ll ask pointed questions, offer honest observations, and sometimes say “look over here” when I think something is worth examining. But I’m not here to tell you who to date, whether to stay in a relationship, or what your life should look like. What I will do is help you figure out what you actually want, and get out of your own way enough to go after it.
That depends on what you’re bringing and what you want to work on. Some clients come in with a specific issue and feel ready to move on after several months. Others are working on longer-standing patterns and find that a year or more gives them the depth they’re looking for. I’ll be honest with you about where I think we are throughout, and we’ll make decisions about pacing collaboratively.
Reach out to schedule a free consultation. We’ll spend about 20 minutes getting to know each other. You can ask me anything, and I’ll ask you some questions to understand what’s bringing you in and what you’re hoping for. If we both feel like it’s a good fit, we’ll schedule our first session from there.