What is IFS and how does it work?

Internal Family Systems, or IFS, is an evidence-based approach that understands the mind as made up of different 'parts.' In our sessions, we'll get curious about these parts rather than fighting them. The goal isn't to get rid of any part of you — it's to build enough internal trust that they don't have to run the show anymore. Most clients find it clarifying and, often, a significant relief.

Are you going to tell me what to do?

I'm a directive therapist, which means I won't just sit quietly and nod. I'll ask pointed questions, offer honest observations, and sometimes say 'look over here' when I think something is worth examining. But I'm not here to tell you who to date, whether to stay in a relationship, or what your life should look like. What I will do is help you figure out what you actually want, and get out of your own way enough to go after it.

How long will therapy take?

That depends on what you're bringing and what you want to work on. Some clients come in with a specific issue and feel ready to move on after several months. Others are working on longer-standing patterns and find that a year or more gives them the depth they're looking for. We'll make decisions about pacing collaboratively.

How do we get started?

Reach out to schedule a free consultation. We'll spend about 20 minutes getting to know each other. You can ask me anything, and I'll ask you some questions to understand what's bringing you in and what you're hoping for. If we both feel like it's a good fit, we'll schedule our first session from there.

A compassionate place to heal the parts of you that have been hiding.

THERAPY FOR TRANS & NON-BINARY PEOPLE IN CALIFORNIA.

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YOU’VE BEEN MANAGING EVERYONE ELSE’S FEELINGS ABOUT WHO YOU ARE. THIS IS WHERE WE FOCUS ON YOURS.

Maybe the world has felt particularly heavy lately. The political climate, the news cycle, the daily experience of moving through the world in a body and an identity that others seem determined to debate. It can be relentless. And on top of all of that, you’re still supposed to show up, hold it together, and figure out your life.

Maybe the people closest to you love you, but they don’t quite get it. You’re always translating yourself, always managing their discomfort, always making your experience smaller so they can stay in the room with you. And underneath that, there’s a loneliness that’s hard to name.

Or maybe the harder thing is something more internal. Not knowing how to feel at home in your body, in your desires, or in your own sense of who you are. Wondering if love and belonging are things that happen for other people.

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SOUND FAMILIAR?

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Feeling isolated even when you’re surrounded by people who care about you.

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Disconnecting from your body or your desires, or feeling like a stranger in both.

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A persistent sense that your needs, your identity, your fullness is too much for anyone to hold.

Struggling to stay grounded when you’re activated by the news, a conversation, or simply the weight of existing right now.

Here’s what we’ll do together

THERAPY DESIGNED for TRANS & NON-BINARY PEOPLE CAN HELP.

You can feel more grounded in who you are. You can build relationships where you don’t have to shrink or translate. You can find a way to be in your own life that feels less like a battle and more like something that belongs to you.

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My approach draws on Internal Family Systems (IFS), somatic awareness, and attachment theory. I’m direct, curious, and genuinely invested in your experience. I won’t ask you to explain the basics of your identity to me, and I won’t treat your transness or your non-binary experience as something to be fixed.

My approach comes from a place of affirmation: believing that the work isn’t about changing who you are, but about building enough internal trust that living as yourself becomes less of a battle.

I also provide gender-affirming care letters for clients pursuing hormone therapy or surgical procedures. We can discuss this during our consultation.

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FEELING LIKE TOO MUCH, OR NOT ENOUGH, DOESN’T HAVE TO BE YOUR STORY. YOU DESERVE A SPACE THAT CAN HOLD ALL OF YOU.

From isolation to belonging. From surviving to actually living your life.

THERAPY FOR TRANS & NON-BINARY PEOPLE CAN HELP YOU:

Embrace your full self.

Together, we will create a space where your gender identity is not a problem to be solved but a central part of who you are, and what we’re here to understand together.

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Unlearn patterns that are no longer working for you.

Get underneath the isolation, the hypervigilance, and the survival patterns you built in spaces that weren’t safe, and build something more sustainable

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Develop real tools to take care of yourself.

Most of us weren’t taught how to respond to our emotions. Here we will develop real tools to stay grounded when you’re activated, so you’re not always reacting from the most flooded version of yourself.

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Build internal trust with all your parts.

Work with the parts of you that learned to hide or manage your identity so others could stay comfortable, and help them trust that you can handle the truth of who you are

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Change is possible.

I’LL HELP YOU GET THERE.

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FAQs

COMMON QUESTIONS

Internal Family Systems, or IFS, is an evidence-based approach that understands the mind as made up of different “parts.” You might recognize these as the part of you that wants real connection and the part that shuts down when things get too close. Or the part that takes care of everyone else while another part quietly resents it. In our sessions, we’ll get curious about these parts rather than fighting them. The goal isn’t to get rid of any part of you. It’s to build enough internal trust that they don’t have to run the show anymore. Most clients find it clarifying and, often, a significant relief.
I’m a directive therapist, which means I won’t just sit quietly and nod. I’ll ask pointed questions, offer honest observations, and sometimes say “look over here” when I think something is worth examining. But I’m not here to tell you who to date, whether to stay in a relationship, or what your life should look like. What I will do is help you figure out what you actually want, and get out of your own way enough to go after it.
That depends on what you’re bringing and what you want to work on. Some clients come in with a specific issue and feel ready to move on after several months. Others are working on longer-standing patterns and find that a year or more gives them the depth they’re looking for. I’ll be honest with you about where I think we are throughout, and we’ll make decisions about pacing collaboratively.
Reach out to schedule a free consultation. We’ll spend about 20 minutes getting to know each other. You can ask me anything, and I’ll ask you some questions to understand what’s bringing you in and what you’re hoping for. If we both feel like it’s a good fit, we’ll schedule our first session from there.